Even if there is a catalyst for change that drives you to make a decision to make that change, and even if you start to see results, any progress you make will be short-lived if the reason you’re doing it isn’t. does not come from your heart.
Every change you’ve ever made to improve your health and achieve a healthy weight started with a decision. And every decision came as a result of something that bothered you enough to make you want to do something else. Decisions are powerful, or at least they can be when the “what” or “why” behind them comes from the right place.
When it comes to health, and especially weight loss, it’s important to know why you’re doing it. If you ask someone why they decided to exercise, lose weight, or eat cleaner, they’ll probably say something like, “I really need to fit back into my jeans,” “I just need to lose 20 weight.” pounds for my high school reunion” or “We’re going on a cruise in a few months, so you know, with bathing suits and stuff.” Well, you get the idea.
These are undoubtedly the moments that push people to get started and see results. However, it is usually not the times when they can maintain those results.
Even if there is a catalyst for change with something that is gnawing at you and prompting you to make a decision to make that change, even if you start to see results, any progress you make will be short-lived if you a “why” that is short term, rather than one that tackles the bigger picture.
Simply put, a “why” based on the ego rather than one that comes from your heart doesn’t do much in the long run. Getting frustrated with your weight and telling yourself that you’ll lose those extra pounds and fit back into those favorite jeans by Christmas isn’t enough. You will definitely get results as long as you make changes. Remember that anyone can lose weight. Ask a dieter. They’ve done it several times.
But how you hold it off is the much bigger and more important question. And it all comes down to the source of your ‘why’.
What I’ve noticed in conversations with my clients over the years is that most people decide to jump in and focus on health and/or weight because something suddenly became urgent for them, like the examples above. Simply put, their reasons for diving in are based solely on the way they see themselves in the mirror. It’s purely ego-driven.
To be clear, I’m not saying you have a huge ego if you ever wanted to look better in a bathing suit. It’s likely that most of us wanted that at one time or another. Rather, those reasons come from a superficial place.
(People who make them) see only the short term. And when that short-term ends, with nothing long-term to back it up and guide you to keep going, it’s very easy to let go of all those good habits you just started living with.
To have success, real success where you can achieve your health and weight goals and maintain them for life, your “why-I-do-this?” must come from the heart. Hear: “I’ve watched my mom go on a yo-yo diet for years and I don’t want to live that way. I want my kids to have a healthy relationship with food,” “My dad’s just not healthy and I’m afraid of what’s going to happen to him.” can happen. I can’t do that to my family” or “I never want to feel too old to travel and discover how and where I want to. I only have one body and I have to take care of it.” It is powerful because it comes from the heart.
That ego “why” you started with, that’s okay. I’m all for anything that motivates you to start your health journey. It’s all right. But thinking it’s enough without going deeper and really asking yourself, “Why am I doing this?” is a big mistake.
Having an approach that focuses on health and not diet certainly helps steer you in the right direction. But the deciding factor — the thing that seals the deal and allows you to achieve your goals and keep all those great results you’ve worked so hard for — is a “why” that comes from your heart.
If you’re ready to stop dieting, find out why and get results that you can keep for a lifetime, book a free assessment interview with Tania and join the 8 weeks is all it takes group on facebook.
This article is written by or on behalf of an outsourced columnist and does not necessarily reflect Castanet’s opinion.